Advanced Self-Care
How to utilize this information
We've put all the videos on this one page so everything is easy to find, but we don't recommend you watch them all at once. Each one of these videos is meant to introduce you to an idea. To get the full benefit, spend some time with the recommended resources for each topic.
Part 1...
Understanding Your Attachment Style
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Anxious
As Children
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May be wary of strangers
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Become greatly distressed when parents leave
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Do not appear comforted when parents return
As Adults
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Craves closeness and intimacy
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Worry that their partner does not love them
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Become very distraught when relationships end
Secure
As Children
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Separates from parent
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Seeks comfort from parents when frightened
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Greets return of parents with positive emotions
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Prefers parents to strangers
As Adults
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Have trusting, lasting relationships
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Tend to have good self-esteem
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Share feelings with partners and friends
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Seek out social support
- Low on avoidance and anxiety
Avoidant
As Children
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May avoid parents
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Do not seek much contact or comfort from parents
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Show little or no preference for parents over strangers
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Show little or no preference for parents
As Adults
- Uncomfortable with too much closeness.
- High value on independence
- Difficulty sharing thoughts or feelings with others
Disorganized
As Children
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Show a mixture of avoidant and resistant behavior
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May seem dazed, confused, or apprehensive
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Some children may act as a caregiver toward the parent
As Adults
- Uncomfortable with Intimacy while worried about partners commitment and love
- High and anxiety and high avoidance
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Part 2
Identifying Your Triggers
Abandonment
People who have experienced abandonment in their childhood will have to work on their fear of loneliness. They fear and being rejected. They will put up invisible barriers against physical contact.
Rejection
Anyone who suffers from this painful experience feels undeserving of affection and understanding. They often isolate themselves and are always afraid of being rejected. Those who have been rejected as children tend to become elusive adults.
Humiliation
As adults, those who were humiliated as children might develop dependent personality disorder but may also be tyrannous and selfish as a defense mechanism. They may even develop a tendency to humiliate others as a protective shield.
If you have this childhood wound, you will need to work on your independence, freedom, priorities, and how to better understand your needs and fears.
Betrayal
People with this childhood wound may have a very strong need to be in control. to be exactly the way they want it. They may justify their tendency to control as being a part of their strong character.
These people tend to confirm their mistakes through their behavior.
If you have this childhood wound, you need to work on patience, tolerance and learn how to delegate responsibilities.
Injustice
People with this childhood wound might try to compensate by being very important (with lots of power) as adults. They may also develop perfectionistic tendencies, and be intolerant of perceived weakness in themselves or others
If this is you, work on being more flexible. Try to allow yourself to trust others.
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Part 3:
Knowing Yourself
Enneagram
Personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions.
The nine types:
1. Perfectionists
2. Helper/giver
3. Achiever
4. Romantic
5. Observer
6. Loyal Skeptic
7. Enthusiast
8. Protector
9. Mediator
Strengths Test
Identify your top 5 strengths as well as your 5 biggest weaknesses using the ClifftonStrengths Assessment.
You can take the test here.
*note* This is a paid test produced by Gallup.
You can also get the book off of Amazon which includes a code to take the test.
RecoverU
This online mini-course takes a look at the addiction recovery process through the lens of each Enneagram personality type.
It will help you understand your needs and your families needs much better. You'll discover your natural strengths and core motivators.
This course can be taken by one person or multiple members of a family.
It covers each personality type as the addicted person and as the family member.
BONUS..
Advice from Campbell
