How do you tell if someone with an addiction is using you?
The sad truth is that as the addiction progresses and goes along, the addicted person is less and less able to put anyone else's needs first.
For someone with an addiction to take care of others' needs, they have to have their gas tank full first. If they get the right amount of a substance to calm down that part of their brain. When leveled out, they can care about other things because they can stop chasing, but it doesn't last very long because they need to get back to the chase.
Important: People with addictions aren't inherently selfish, bad people, or want to take advantage of you. That's not it at all. It's just that the addiction puts you in that state, and it doesn't matter who you are. It will put you in that survival zone. Sometimes it's more apparent than others when an addict or an alcoholic is using you, but it's not always obvious.
Part of having an addiction is getting good at manipulating your environment, and that manipulation can take various types of forms. Sometimes people will manipulate you by being charming and charismatic and seeming very caring and concerned.
Sometimes people use you by demanding what they need, throwing a fit, or emotionally blackmailing you to make you feel guilty if you don't give them what they want.
People will play the nice mask until it doesn't work anymore, and then they'll show their cards.
In case you're having a hard time figuring out if someone is using you or if they care about you, here are four signs that an addict or an alcoholic is just plain using you.
If you want to understand more about the survival and desperate state of addiction and why people who have an addiction are hurtful, I want you to watch the video below next. It's going to add a lot more clarity for you.
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