How To Know If Your Addicted Loved One Is Using You?

How do you tell if someone with an addiction is using you?

The sad truth is that as the addiction progresses and goes along, the addicted person is less and less able to put anyone else's needs first.

For someone with an addiction to take care of others' needs, they have to have their gas tank full first. If they get the right amount of a substance to calm down that part of their brain. When leveled out, they can care about other things because they can stop chasing, but it doesn't last very long because they need to get back to the chase.

Important: People with addictions aren't inherently selfish, bad people, or want to take advantage of you. That's not it at all. It's just that the addiction puts you in that state, and it doesn't matter who you are. It will put you in that survival zone. Sometimes it's more apparent than others when an addict or an alcoholic is using you, but it's not always obvious.

Part of having an addiction is getting good at manipulating your environment, and that manipulation can take various types of forms. Sometimes people will manipulate you by being charming and charismatic and seeming very caring and concerned.

Sometimes people use you by demanding what they need, throwing a fit, or emotionally blackmailing you to make you feel guilty if you don't give them what they want.

People will play the nice mask until it doesn't work anymore, and then they'll show their cards.

In case you're having a hard time figuring out if someone is using you or if they care about you, here are four signs that an addict or an alcoholic is just plain using you.

  • #1- They always avoid you. It looks like they only come around or call when they need something.
  • #2- When they show affection, care, and concern towards you, it feels very insincere and icky, like you know deep down inside that you're both playing this game with each other, and it feels fake, and you don't like it.
  • #3- they never really make attempts to return the favor, like giving back the money that they borrow or helping you out with something when you need help or giving you the ride to the airport or helping you take care of your kids, or do any of those other things you do for them. It seems like it's a one-way street of a relationship.
  • #4- is going to be very black and white. There's no maybe sort of, kind of around this one. If the person is stealing from you, they are using you. Their addiction has gotten to a point where they are in a state of desperation. Deep down, they may have the feeling of caring about you, but they can't behave in a consistently caring way toward you.

If you want to understand more about the survival and desperate state of addiction and why people who have an addiction are hurtful, I want you to watch the video below next. It's going to add a lot more clarity for you.

Amber Hollingsworth



📨 Download Amber's Guide to Understanding Manipulation

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