How To Rebuild Relationship When Trust Is Broken

Rebuilding Trust in Relationships: A Roadmap to Healing

Trust forms the bedrock of any strong relationship. When trust is broken, it can leave both parties shattered, with walls of defense erected. Rebuilding that trust requires understanding and effort from both sides. In this post, we'll explore practical steps to navigate this challenging journey.

Understanding Defense Mechanisms

If trust has been breached in your relationship, it's natural for defense mechanisms to kick in. Whether you're the one who betrayed trust or the one hurt by it, these defenses can complicate healing. Recognizing and addressing these defenses is crucial for progress.

Addressing the Trust Breaker

For the person who has broken trust, patience is paramount. Healing takes time, often longer than expected. Avoiding the topic or becoming defensive only prolongs the process. Instead, acknowledge the wrongdoing regularly and openly. This demonstrates your commitment to change and gradually rebuilds trust.

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Relationship Betrayal Recovery From Addiction-Induced Betrayal Trauma

Healing from Betrayal Trauma: A Comprehensive Guide

Betrayal trauma is one of the most challenging experiences to navigate, especially when you’ve chosen to stay in the relationship. This complex issue requires a deep dive into the myriad steps necessary to get back on track after a major deception or betrayal has occurred.

Understanding Betrayal Trauma

Typically, when we think of betrayal trauma, an affair often comes to mind. However, betrayal can also stem from having a spouse or partner with an addiction. If you find yourself in either of these situations and have decided to work through it, you’re facing significant challenges—not just self-doubt but also doubts from those around you and possibly even your partner.

The Road to Healing

Healing from betrayal trauma is a murky and long journey, but it is possible. The first step is understanding what you’re dealing with. This blog explores the perspectives of both the betrayed and the betrayer, recognizing...

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How To Deal With The Lies Of Your Addict Significant Other

Dealing with Lies in Addiction: Understanding and Managing the Common Lies of Addiction
Hello, and welcome to *Put the Shovel Down*. In today's post, we're diving deep into a topic that is crucial for anyone dealing with addiction: lies. Specifically, we'll explore the seven most common types of lies that people with addictions tell. While there are other posts and videos on this channel about lying and manipulation, today, we're going a little deeper.

For those of you who are new here, I'm Amber Hollingsworth, a Master Addiction Counselor with over 20 years of experience helping people overcome addiction. I've seen firsthand how pervasive lying can be in the context of addiction. There's no foolproof way to get someone to tell the truth, and attempting to force honesty often backfires. Instead, I'll provide you with insights and tools to navigate these challenging situations effectively.

Understanding the Reasons Behind Lies in Addiction
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How To Stop An Addiction On Your Own

You CAN Overcome Addiction On Your Own: My Top 4 Tips for Success

In the world of addiction recovery, the prevailing belief is that you can't overcome addiction on your own—you need help, support, and intervention. But I'm here to tell you the opposite. Not only can you stop an addiction on your own, but it's often the most effective way to achieve lasting recovery.

I know you might be skeptical, but stick with me. By the end of this post, you'll see that self-reliance in addiction recovery is not just possible—it's powerful. Plus, I'll share my top four tips for boosting your self-control, which is crucial for overcoming any addiction.

Who Am I?

For those of you who are new here, I'm Amber Hollingsworth, a Master Addiction Counselor. I've dedicated my career to helping people overcome addiction, and on this blog, we challenge the idea that you're powerless against addiction. We believe in empowering you with the science and psychology of addiction so you can stay five...

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How To Make Someone Want To Get Sober

How to Make Someone Want to Get Sober: A Step-by-Step Guide

Some of you may be skeptical just reading the title: "How to Make Someone Want to Get Sober." Before diving into this post, you're likely thinking, "You can't make someone get sober. They have to want it for themselves." You're right, to a large degree. But there's more to the story. While you can't make someone get sober, you can influence them to want to pursue sobriety. Here's how.

The Influence Factor

First, let's address the elephant in the room: you can't force sobriety on anyone. The person struggling with addiction has to put in the work themselves. However, as someone close to them, you play a crucial role in influencing their journey towards sobriety.

Imagine trying to make someone want to spend more time with you. There are subtle ways you can influence their feelings and decisions. Similarly, there are strategies to encourage someone to consider sobriety.

Understanding Emotional Triggers

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How To Start Living The BEST Life With Sober Lifestyle

 Embracing a Sober Lifestyle: The Path to True Happiness

Initially, the idea of living a sober lifestyle can feel pretty scary and quite intimidating. Our brains immediately start to think about what we're going to miss out on and the events that won't be the same without alcohol. For some of us, it even feels like giving up alcohol means giving up the idea of ever having fun again.

But luckily, none of that is true. In fact, it's pretty much the opposite of the truth. I want to explain to you what a sober lifestyle is really like, and keep reading because I'm also going to give you some pointers about how to take your sober lifestyle to the next level and live your best life.

For those of you who are new here, I'm Amber Hollingsworth. I'm a Master Addiction Counselor. I've been helping people overcome addiction for more than 20 years now. I've seen people get sober in every way you can imagine, and I can wholeheartedly tell you that once people get sober, they are much,...

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Unexpected Ways Addiction Affects Relationships

Healing Relationships Affected by Addiction: A Dual Perspective

When you’re in a relationship with someone struggling with addiction, it’s easy to believe that if the addiction gets under control, everything will be okay. However, addiction impacts relationships in profound and unexpected ways, and repairing that damage is a complex process.

The Dual Impact of Addiction

Addiction doesn't just hurt the person using substances; it affects everyone close to them. To understand the full scope of its impact, we need to look at it from both perspectives: the person with the addiction and their loved ones.

The Loved One’s Perspective

For the loved one, the journey through a partner's addiction is often marked by a rollercoaster of emotions. There’s the initial hope that the situation will improve, followed by disappointment when it doesn’t, creating a cycle of trust and betrayal. Over time, this repeated cycle can lead to deep-seated resentment and a profound...

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What To Expect During Alcohol Detox: Alcohol Withdrawal Symptoms

Understanding Alcohol Withdrawal: What You Need to Know Before Quitting Cold Turkey

If you think you have an alcohol problem and you're considering stopping, that's wonderful news. Taking this step is a huge move towards reclaiming your health and happiness. However, before you go cold turkey, it’s crucial to understand how the process works and the potential dangers involved. Alcohol withdrawal can be dangerous, so please read through this entire post to ensure you're informed and prepared.

Why Alcohol Withdrawal Can Be Dangerous

There are ten main symptoms of alcohol withdrawal that can vary from mild to severe. Understanding these symptoms can help you gauge whether your withdrawal experience is mild or something more serious that requires medical attention.

For those of you who are new here, I'm Amber Hollingsworth, a master addiction counselor with over 20 years of experience helping people and families overcome addiction. This blog, along with my YouTube...

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Here's What Documentaries Don't Tell You About Addiction Intervention

Mastering the Art of Timing: Intervening with an Addicted Loved One

In the intricate dance of helping a loved one with addiction, timing is not just crucial—it's everything. Knowing when and how to approach the subject of addiction can mean the difference between resistance and receptivity, between frustration and progress. In this insightful guide, we'll delve into the delicate balance of timing interventions with addicted loved ones, helping you navigate this challenging terrain with confidence and effectiveness.

Understanding the Ebb and Flow

Addiction is a rollercoaster of highs and lows, marked by moments of seeming control and periods of chaos. It's during these natural fluctuations that individuals may engage in what Amber Hollingsworth terms "bargaining"—a desperate attempt to exert some semblance of control over their addictive behaviors. This phase often involves setting limits or rules around substance use, such as restricting consumption to certain days or...

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The Roles of Sponsors And Counselors In Addiction Support

Sponsor vs. Counselor: Navigating Addiction Recovery Support

In the journey towards overcoming addiction, people often face the pivotal choice between seeking guidance from a sponsor or a counselor. Both options come with their own set of pros and cons, presenting individuals with a challenging decision to make. In this comprehensive guide, we'll delve into the nuances of each choice, shedding light on their merits and limitations.

Understanding the Sponsorship Route

For many embarking on the path to recovery, a sponsor serves as a beacon of support. Sponsors, typically affiliated with 12-step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, offer invaluable mentorship grounded in personal experience. Here are some key points to consider:

Pros of Having a Sponsor:

1. Cost-Effective Support: One of the most appealing aspects of having a sponsor is that it comes at no financial cost. This mentorship is readily available to guide individuals through the journey to sobriety.

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