Why Do I Self-Sabotage? The Real Reason You Keep Getting in Your Own Way

Have you ever made a choice you knew was bad for you and then looked back and thought:

Why did I do that? I knew better.

Maybe you were doing well in recovery and suddenly put yourself in a risky situation. Maybe you finally set a healthy boundary and immediately backed down when someone got upset. Maybe you were making progress financially and went on a spending spree. Or maybe you picked a fight in a healthy relationship, procrastinated on an important opportunity, or quit right when things were starting to go well.

We usually call this self-sabotage.

But what if you're not secretly trying to ruin your life?

What if your brain is actually trying to solve a problem?

Understanding why self-sabotaging behaviors happen can completely change the way you approach them, especially in addiction recovery. Because if you only focus on stopping the behavior without understanding what the behavior is doing for you,...