If You See the Problem But They Don't - This 5-Day Challenge Will Change Everything in 2026

Al-Anon teaches "detach with love"—basically, let go of trying to control or influence them, focus on your own recovery. That works for some people who need to step back for their own sanity.

The Denial Breakthrough Challenge teaches the OPPOSITE: How to strategically INCREASE your influence using psychology, motivational techniques, and insider knowledge of how addicts actually think.

Think of it this way:

• Al-Anon says "you can't change them."
• I say "you can't FORCE them to change, but you CAN create conditions where they're far more likely to choose it themselves."

Both approaches have value—it just depends on where you are and what you want. If you're ready to give up, Al-Anon is great. If you're not ready to give up yet, this challenge is for you.

Because that's exactly what we're doing—breaking through the wall of denial that's keeping them stuck.

Most people try to break through denial by confronting it directly ("You have a problem! Look at the evidence!"). That never works—it just makes them defend harder.

This challenge teaches you how to break through denial strategically—by working WITH human psychology instead of against it. By the end of 5 days, you'll have a clear roadmap for creating breakthrough moments where they see the truth themselves.

Someone who has a drinking problem but still appears to have their life together on the surface—holding down a job, paying bills, maybe even excelling at work. Others might look at them and think, "There's no way they have a problem!"

But at home, you see the truth: emotional distance, broken promises, mood swings, or hiding their drinking. The "high-functioning" label is misleading—it's not control, it's a stage of alcoholism that can progress if left unaddressed.

The good news? This is actually your best window for change. Their brain is still working well enough to respond—before things spiral further.

This challenge works for drug addiction too. While most examples reference alcohol, the principles are identical—denial, functionality, resistance to change, and the psychology of breaking through all work the same way regardless of the substance.

You'll learn how to understand the underlying behaviors, break through denial, and motivate change in a way that works whether it's alcohol, marijuana, pills, or other drugs.

Everything you learn here is completely relevant and applicable to your situation.

The strategies work across different relationships (parent, sibling, adult child, close friend), but this challenge is specifically designed for the unique dynamics of a spousal or partner relationship.

If you're helping someone other than a romantic partner, you'll still gain valuable insights—but our Invisible Intervention program may be a better fit. It's designed specifically for parents, family members, and friends navigating addiction with loved ones in different relational contexts.

Not sure which is right for you? Give us a call and we'll help you sort through the options.  864-906-2395

Each main session is about 1 hour (1 PM - 2 PM EST). VIPs get an additional hour before each session (12 PM - 1 PM EST) for personalized Q&A.

Beyond the live sessions, plan for 15-30 minutes daily to complete assignments and reflect on what you're learning. The real work happens in your conversations and interactions at home—but these don't require extra time, just a different approach to the time you're already spending together.

Bottom line: 1-2 hours daily for 5 days, with immediate application in your everyday life.

Live attendance isn't required, but it's strongly encouraged. There's something powerful about being present in the moment, engaging with the energy of the session, and (for VIPs) getting real-time feedback on your specific situation.

That said, life happens! If you miss a session:

• General Admission: 24-hour replay access after each session
• VIP: Full week of replay access + AI-generated notes

You'll benefit either way, but showing up live allows you to engage fully and ask questions when they come up. If your schedule allows, be there live—but the replays ensure you won't miss anything critical.

That's exactly why this challenge exists! Denial is the biggest obstacle—and it's strongest in high-functioning alcoholics because they're still "holding it together" on the surface.

This challenge teaches you how to break through that denial without confrontation, criticism, or trying to convince them they're wrong. Instead, you'll learn to help them see the truth themselves—using their own values, identity, and experiences as the mirror.

When done right, they think it's their realization. Because it is.

That's exactly what we're going to fix. The reason they get defensive is because confrontation triggers their brain to protect itself—and every defense they make actually convinces them more deeply that they don't have a problem.

In this challenge, you'll learn how to sidestep that landmine completely. We won't be talking about their drinking at all. Instead, you'll learn how to reflect back their values, remind them of who they are at their core, and create situations where the problem becomes obvious to them—without you having to say a word.

No more fights. No more shut-downs. Just a different approach that actually works.

If you feel like you've hit a wall, here's why: everything you've tried has likely been some version of confronting the problem—talking, pleading, setting boundaries, giving ultimatums. And confrontation, no matter how well-intentioned, triggers defensiveness and reinforces denial.

This challenge teaches a completely different approach. Instead of trying to convince them they have a problem, you'll learn how to help them see it themselves by reflecting their values, building their trust, and strategically illuminating the truth—without a single conversation about alcohol.

This isn't manipulation—it's working with human psychology instead of against it. That's why it works when everything else hasn't.

Don't announce it, but if they ask, keep it simple and positive:

"I realized I haven't been handling this situation well, and I'm working on being more supportive instead of reactive."

This is actually true—you are learning to respond differently. And framing it this way removes defensiveness because you're taking responsibility for your part, not focusing on their drinking.

Most of the time, they won't even ask. But if they do, this approach keeps things calm and shows you're committed to improving the relationship—which is exactly what you're doing.

Not unless you tell them. Everything you learn is designed to be subtle and natural—reflecting their values, asking thoughtful questions, creating space for self-reflection. It won't feel like you're "using techniques" on them; it'll just feel like you're showing up differently in the relationship.

That's exactly where this challenge meets you. Most functional alcoholics aren't ready to quit—that's the whole problem! They don't think they need to.

This challenge teaches you how to help them become ready by creating curiosity, building awareness, and making the problem impossible to ignore—without pushing, pleading, or ultimatums.

And here's the other benefit: even if they don't change immediately, you'll walk away knowing you've done everything in your power with clarity, intention, and love. No guilt. No second-guessing. Just the peace of mind that you showed up the right way.

Perfect—this will give you tools those programs likely didn't cover.

Most therapy focuses on YOUR boundaries and emotional health (which is important!). This challenge focuses on understanding THEIR psychology and how to influence THEIR decision-making.

These aren't contradictory—they're complementary. Think of therapy as helping YOU stay sane while you do this hard work. This challenge teaches you HOW to actually break through their denial.

Every situation is different. Some people see shifts within days—a softer response, more openness, less defensiveness. Others see change unfold over weeks or months. What you will notice immediately is a shift in yourself—more clarity, confidence, and control over how you show up. And that shift often creates the opening for your partner to change.

Even better! What you learn here will complement their professional support. You'll be equipped to reinforce their progress at home, avoid accidentally triggering setbacks, and create an environment that supports their recovery instead of undermining it.

The principles work regardless of the substance. Whether it's alcohol combined with marijuana, pills, or other drugs, the psychology of denial, functionality, and resistance to change remains the same. You'll be able to apply everything you learn.

VIP gives you deeper access and personalized support:

🔥 Daily 1-hour VIP Q&A & Coaching (before each main session) - Get personalized feedback on your specific situation
🔥 Full week of replay access (vs. 24 hours for GA) - Rewatch and review at your own pace
🔥 AI-generated session notes - Stay present without worrying about taking notes
🔥 100% Money-Back Guarantee - Show up, do the work, and if you don't get value, full refund

See the full comparison table above for all the details.

General Admission: The main sessions are structured to deliver all the core content without Q&A, so we can stay on track and cover everything efficiently.

VIP: You'll get a full hour of personalized Q&A and coaching before each main session—perfect for getting tailored feedback on your specific situation and applying the strategies in real-time.

If you want direct support and personalized guidance, VIP is the way to go.

General Admission gives you everything you need to start breaking through your partner's denial—the complete Denial Breakthrough Method, all 5 live sessions, daily assignments, the workbook, and 24-hour replays.

VIP adds personalized coaching and extended support, but GA is a powerful program on its own. Many participants see real breakthroughs with General Admission alone.

Choose what works for your budget—either way, you're taking action, and that's what matters most.

If you can click a Zoom link and open emails, you're all set! We use Zoom for live sessions (very straightforward), and you'll receive clear instructions and links after you register.

No complicated tech or fancy tools—just simple, user-friendly access so you can focus on the content, not the technology.

I get it—life happens. We typically run these challenges every month or two, but there's no guarantee exactly when the next one will be.

If you're feeling even remotely ready, I'd encourage you to jump in now. There's no perfect time to start—and waiting usually just means watching things get worse while wishing you'd acted sooner.

That said, if now truly isn't right, we'll run this again. Just keep an eye out for announcements so you don't miss your next opportunity.

Yes, if they're already on board and recognize there's a problem. If another family member sees the issue the same way you do and wants to help, sharing these strategies can be powerful—you'll be working together instead of at cross purposes.

However, be careful about recruiting others who are in denial about your partner's drinking or think you're overreacting. If they don't see the problem, asking them to use these techniques can backfire. They may inadvertently undermine your efforts or tip off your partner that you're trying to "manage" them.

Best approach: Use what you learn yourself first. When others see the positive changes in your dynamic, they'll naturally become more open—but only engage them if they already recognize there's a problem and genuinely want to support real change.

VIP 100% Money-Back Guarantee:
Attend all 5 sessions, complete assignments, and if you don't get value—full refund. Details above.