More Examples of Gaslighting That An Addict Or Alcoholic Might Say To You

manipulation Apr 26, 2022

If your addicted loved one has said any of the following 11 statements, you're being gaslit, a form of manipulation. This is part two in my series on gaslighting statements. Here's the link to part one.

If you're not familiar with the term, gaslighting is when someone purposely makes you think you're crazy. It's a common manipulation tactic used when dealing with someone struggling with an addiction. It's their way of deflecting the conversation, the energy, and putting it back on you.

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Back to the most common gaslighting statements...

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"I have to have that for my anxiety. If you don't let me have that, I'll probably go out and do something worse....

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Things People With Addictions Say to Try and Gaslight You 😫

If you have an addicted loved one and hear any of these statements, you are being manipulated.

We're going to look at gaslighting from the loved one's perspective. If you have an addicted loved one and say things like this to you, this is gaslighting.

If you've never heard that term before, it's where someone purposefully makes you feel like you're crazy.
There are a lot of ways this happens. Let's start with like the classic of all classics.

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Let's say that you find drugs, alcohol, paraphernalia, whatever it is. You confront your loved one with it. They're going to say, "I forgot about that. That's been there forever!" or "That's my friends, it's not even mine!"
That is super classic.
You probably already know that's not true because you probably looked in that spot recently and knew it wasn't there, but they're going to make you doubt your sanity by telling you that. Then you're going to think, well, maybe it is old, and you're going to question. Before you know it,...

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Do Alcoholics Intentionally Try To Gaslight Their Loved Ones?

One thing about alcoholism that's particularly disconcerting is the memory issues that go along with it.

Alcoholics truly don't remember what happened when drinking (referred to as a blackout), and when their family is upset, they get irritated and feel like the other person is overreacting. It's a form of GASLIGHTING and will make you question your own sanity. In this type of circumstance, the alcoholic isn't intentionally trying to Gaslight their loved one, they just don't remember what they said or did during a blackout incident. 

 

But in other instances (like when you find their hidden alcohol), alcoholics intentionally try to make you think you're crazy. They may say something like, "that's been there for over 6 months. Don't you remember, your dad left that when he came at Christmas?" In these situations, the alcoholic person knows exactly what they're doing. They're trying to throw you off their scent or deflect the argument.  

 

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