Alcohol & Social Anxiety: Your Best Friend or Your Frenemy?
Weâve all been thereâyou want to be social, have fun, and connect with people, but your social anxiety is doing everything in its power to hold you back. Then enters alcohol, promising to be your new best friend, taking the edge off and making socializing easier. But sometimes, alcohol isnât the friend you think it is. In fact, it can be more like a frenemyâseemingly helping you in the moment but making things worse in the long run.
If you experience social anxiety, your goal in social situations is probably to decrease your inhibitionsâsomething alcohol is known to do quite well. But hereâs the catch: alcohol doesnât come with a fine-tuned dial to adjust just how much inhibition gets lowered. Instead, it can throw that dial all the way to the extreme, leaving you vulnerable to missteps you wouldnât normally make.
Alcohol can make you feel funnier, more charismatic, and charming, ...
Losing someone to opiate addiction is a heart-wrenching experienceâespecially when that person is your partner, your confidant, the one you vowed to stand by through thick and thin. In this post, we explore the unique challenges and emotional turmoil faced by those who love someone battling opioid addiction. Whether you're just starting to notice signs or have been grappling with this crisis for years, understanding the insidious nature of opiate addiction can be the first step toward reclaiming your life and protecting your family.
One of the most perplexing aspects of opioid addiction is its ability to hide in plain sight. Unlike other addictions, the early stages of opiate dependency can be deceptive:
Subtle Behavioral Changes:
Many people assume that if someone isnât visibly intoxicated, thereâs nothing to worry about. With opiate addictio...
Have you ever wondered, Do addicts mean the hurtful things they say? If so, youâre not alone. This is a question I recently received from a viewer, and I know many of you may be struggling with the same concern.
So, letâs break it downâdo they mean it? The answer is yes, no, and sometimes. Confusing, right? Letâs dive deeper so you can understand when they mean it when they donât and why addiction often seems to strip away empathy.
People in active addiction are often operating from a place of intoxication, desperation, or defensivenessâand all three can impact what they say and how they act. Understanding these states can help you make sense of their words and behavior.
Substances like alcohol and drugs alter brain function, making it hard for a person to regulate their emotions and thoughts.
...Loving someone with an addiction is incredibly difficult and heartbreaking. Of course, you want to help them, but you also have to protect yourself. And as you probably already know, that can be very, very challenging. Keep reading to discover crucial tips on avoiding the top three most common boundary mistakesâand what to do instead.
These top three boundary mistakes might not be what youâre expecting, so stay with meâthereâs logic behind them.
When you love someone with an addiction, their substance use impacts not just them but you, too. Itâs completely natural to want to control their behavior in an attempt to shield yourself from the chaos. This often leads to setting too many boundariesârules about what they can and cannot do, expecting them to comply.
But hereâs the catch:Â boundaries are about what you will and wonât accept, not a...
Loving an addict or alcoholic can make you feel like you're losing your mind. While "crazy" may not be a clinical term, it's the only word that captures the emotional chaos so many of us experience in these situations. You lose yourself, your sense of stability, and sometimes, even your identity. If this resonates with you, know you're not aloneâand you're in the right place.
Iâm Amber Hollingsworth, a master addiction counselor with over 20 years of experience. On my YouTube channel, I aim to help families navigate the impact of addiction. We will unpack the emotional toll of loving someone with addiction, the mental rollercoaster youâre on, andâmost importantlyâhow to start reclaiming your sanity.
When you're closely connected to someone struggling with addiction, your emotional brain (your limbic system) syncs up with theirs. It's almost magnetic. Ever notice how being around anxiou...
Addiction isnât a one-size-fits-all situation. It exists on a spectrum, with a gray area between casual use and full-blown addiction. This "gray area thinking" is where many people find themselvesânot sure if their substance use is problematic, yet not identifying as an addict or alcoholic. If that resonates with you, youâre in the right place.
In todayâs blog, weâll explore gray area thinking, how it differs from gray area drinking, and what you can do if youâre navigating this confusing middle ground.
Gray area thinking often involves conflicting feelings about your substance use. You may:
Youâve probably heard all the buzz about Ozempic, hailed by many as a breakthrough weight-loss drug. But did you know its active ingredient, semaglutide, might also hold promise in a completely different areaâaddiction? Thatâs right, folks are buzzing about its potential to curb addictive behaviors, and while thereâs no published research on it just yet, the anecdotal evidence is piling up. Letâs dive in.
Semaglutide works by mimicking a hormone that helps you feel full faster, which is why itâs so effective for weight loss. But hereâs where things get interesting: countless users on platforms like Reddit are claiming that the drug has unexpectedly helped them reduce or eliminate other behaviors, from drinking and smoking to compulsive shopping and even skin-picking.
While these are just personal stories (not hard science), the consistency of these experiences is enough to make you wonderâcou...
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Supporting someone struggling with addiction is one of the toughest roads to walk. You love them, you care for them, and you want to help them through this dark journey. But letâs be real: youâre exhausted, anxious, and maybe even resentful. You're running on fumes, and then you stumble upon advice to âstay positiveâ or âlisten more patiently.â And you think to yourself, "How am I supposed to do that when Iâve got nothing left to give?"
Youâve probably heard the saying: âYou canât pour from an empty cup.â And right now, your cup is bone dry. In this guide, weâre going to talk about how to refill your emotional reserves so you can continue being the supportive, loving person you want to be. Your needs matter, too.
Iâm Amber Hollingsworth, a Master Addiction Counselor, and on my YouTube channel, Put The Shovel Down, I focus on both perspectives: the person dealing with addic...
Too often, we move through our days on autopilot, never stopping to reflect on the motivations behind our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. But what if you took a few moments each day to pause, reflect, and ask yourself three transformational questions? These questions can unlock self-awareness, help you grow personally, and strengthen your relationships.
Whether you're on a personal recovery journey or navigating family recovery, self-awareness and self-honesty are essential for lasting change. These daily reflections will challenge you to get honest with yourself and build the habit of integrity over time.
Here are the three powerful questions to ask yourself every night.
Resentment can quietly build, turning into self-pity and leading to poor decisions. Itâs like a low-level anger that simmers under the surface. Identifying resentment is critical for personal growth and recovery ...
5 Signs You Might Be Enabling Your Loved Oneâs Addiction
Enabling goes beyond simply paying someoneâs bills or letting them stay under your roof. Itâs a deeper, more complex dynamic that can keep your loved one stuck in unhealthy patterns. In this post, weâll walk through five major signs that you might be enabling someone struggling with addiction. Think about each sign as you readâdoes it resonate with your experience?
If you're here, you're likely concerned that you might be enabling someone you care about.Â
So, letâs explore the five signs that you might be enabling:
1. Shielding Them from Natural Consequences
If your loved one isnât facing the natural outcomes of their actions, they might not see a reason to change. Natural consequences happen when someoneâs actions lead to logical results, like missing work and getting fired. On the other hand, punishment is something you impose in response to bad behavior. By stepping in and fixing their problems, they might feel like every...
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