What's the Link Between Character Defects And Addiction?

enneagram Jul 09, 2021

If addiction is not a moral issue, why do people have to work on their character defects as part of their recovery in the 12-steps? Do character defects cause addiction, or does addiction cause character defects? Why do addicts and alcoholics behave so selfishly? 

These questions open up a complex discussion. Personality, character, and behavior are interwoven in the stereotype of addicts.

Loved ones of addicted people say, "She/he never used to be like this before his addiction”. So what's behind our current character and its expression through behaviors? Let's take a closer look at this video to find out the answer to these questions and more!

Amber Hollingsworth

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Behind-the-Scenes Of Addiction Recovery

addicted loved one Jul 01, 2021

We're going to be looking behind the scenes of addiction recovery. Family recovery coach Scott Nunnery will be sharing about his personal journey having two sons struggle with addiction, and also what he's learned since beginning to work in the field, trying to help others struggling with an addicted loved one.

Amber Hollingsworth


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Addictive Behavior (Dangerous Warning Signs You Should Never Ignore)

addicted loved one Jun 24, 2021

It's easy to dismiss aggressive behaviors when dealing with someone who is intoxicated or addicted. You tell yourself that your addicted loved one didn't mean what they said or convince yourself that they only behaved that way because they were intoxicated. But, there are some behaviors you should never ignore. Here are the top 7 warning signs of violent or abusive behavior.

1. Any kind of physical behavior(pushing, throwing, shoving)

2. Intimidating behavior (Yelling, hurtful words)

3. Blocking/Restraining (Making it hard for you to leave or walk away)

4. Threats made to you or to harm themselves(Always take these threats seriously)

5. Raging (You can see/feel their rage coming out) Use reflective listening in this case.

6. Any time someone has an angry episode while they're under the influence.

7. When someone is going through withdrawal.

If any of these situations arise please do not ignore these types of behavior. These indicate trouble and are major warning signs that the...

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Addictive Behavior and Self-Deception

Uncategorized Jun 10, 2021

When we attempt to deceive ourselves and/or others, we are ignoring the reality of the situation and are holding ourselves back from overcoming our obstacles. There are many self-deception thoughts when you're in the process of recovering.  Let's give them a name:

"One last time"-- How many "one last time" thoughts have you had? These are things we tell ourselves to make a bad decision

"Just a little"-- I'm only going to take this to keep me through the day or I'm going to drink to help me sleep.

"Don't let them control you"-- this is the one that talks to you about how you are independent and you can make decisions for yourself.

"You're useless" --Don't listen to this one! This one kicks you when you're down and that no one cares. This will cause you to live recklessly. 

"It's the responsible thing" 

"It's not that big of a deal" --This is used especially if it's a culturally accepted drug.

"You can't be an addict"

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Have You Lost Yourself In Your Loved One's Addiction?

addicted loved one May 21, 2021

Does your loved one's addiction make you feel angry, sad, anxious, resentful, hopeless, desperate, and exhausted? Does it make you act impulsively and irrationally? Do you say and do things you later regret?

You realize on some level that you're not the same person you used to be, right?
It's all of those emotions from your loved one's addiction that leads to making impulsive and desperate decisions and that leads to GUILT! You're living in the survival part of your brain which causes you to make irrational decisions.

In this video, I go through the three-step process of how you got here and give you the three-step process to dig yourself out and reclaim yourself, your emotions, and your identity!

Amber Hollingsworth

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Motivating Yourself (or a loved one) To Get Sober

addicted loved one May 13, 2021

These are the three fundamental laws of human behavior that you should never ignore if you or your loved one is trying to get sober. What motivates us? What makes some float in negative bubbles and make others grow tall in positivity and how does that relate to someone struggling with addiction?

From the book, "THE LAWS OF HUMAN NATURE". 

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Attitude determines reality- We react to what people put out toward us. If you believe that people never get better from addiction that's going to be the reality of your situation. When you have this attitude it's going to impact how you feel which is how you react to the world. You have to have the attitude or belief that your addicted love one can get better. 

To look deeper into the other two laws, watch the full video!

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Problem Drinker vs. Alcoholic

alcoholism May 07, 2021

Problem Drinker vs Alcoholic

What's the difference between a problem drinker and an alcoholic? Just this week, I saw 4 new clients struggling with this exact question. Most people don't understand the difference between someone who drinks a lot and someone who has a diagnosable alcohol use disorder.

Can I be honest with you? The difference between a problem drinker and an alcoholic is that they're only one stage away from becoming a full-blown alcoholic. 

People who are problematic drinkers usually move over into alcohol use disorder eventually, but they do so in stages. 

Here are the 4 stages of alcoholism:

  1. Experimentation- This doesn't indicate a problem. Usually just socially drinking
  2. They start to drink more frequently, harder alcohol, or heavier drinking.
  3. Consequences start to happen. This is when someone starts drinking and can't stop. Problems begin to trickle in because of alcohol use. 
  4. The problematic drinking continues and bridges begin to burn. Meaning...
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Surviving Your Loved Ones Addiction

addicted loved one Apr 29, 2021

Caring for someone with an addiction is a long scary journey. There are days when it seems all is lost. At times, Scott admits that he had days where he thought, "This is never going to get better." His two sons are now in recovery.

In this live interview with a family recovery coach, Scott Nunnery, we talk about finding hope even on the darkest of days.  

Some things to consider if you're having a really hard day:

  • Remember that you're not powerless
  • Go to a family group/meeting
  • Lower your expectations
  • Educate yourself 
  • Turn your problem over to a higher power
  • Don't forget to take care of yourself

Make an appointment with Scott to discuss your situation! 

Watch this next:

After Rehab (What To Expect When Your Kid Leaves Addiction Treatment)

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Dealing with Emotional Triggers

recovery Apr 26, 2021

Emotional triggers--we all have them some are sometimes they're more difficult to deal with than others. Instead of trying to stay away from emotions, it’s important to learn healthy ways to deal with all the different emotions you might experience.  

I'm going to break this down into a 4-step simple process.

Read-(Recognize, Evaluate, Ask, Decide)

Recognize when you're having an emotional trigger. Be conscious of when you're triggered. Why is this helpful? When you're emotionally triggered, your brain drives the boat when it's activated. But we want the thinking part driving. To avoid this, you have to activate the thinking part of your brain. We don't make good decisions when we make them emotionally.

Evaluate where the emotion is coming from. "Am I being emotionally triggered by something that's going on currently?" OR "Is this something that went on in my childhood that is coming back?"

Ask yourself what you want to do about it. Let...

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Your Questions Answered

addicted loved one Apr 15, 2021
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This week, we asked you to write in to our team to suggest a topic for our live video and you delivered! 

In this video, I cover these questions and more: 

  • Co-parenting with an alcoholic
  • Preventing relapse into addictive behaviors
  • Dealing with a relapse, and getting a functional alcoholic out of denial

Ps- you can write in topic suggestions for next week's video! Send your email to [email protected], describe your situation, ask a question, and then look for it on next week's live. Every Thursday at 1 pm (EST) on our YouTube channel.

Amber Hollingsworth

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